Dad's Feelings Matter Too: Shedding Light on Paternal Depression and Anxiety

Jamie Gustafson
May 4
2 min read

Not Just a “Mom Thing”

When we talk about postpartum mental health, the focus usually lands squarely on moms—and for good reason. But here’s something you might not know: 1 in 10 dads experiences postpartum depression too (According to the CDC.)

Yes, dads can struggle emotionally during pregnancy and after birth. And just like moms, they need support, understanding, and sometimes professional care to move through it.

What Does Paternal Depression or Anxiety Look Like?

Unlike moms—who may openly express sadness or overwhelm—dads often experience emotional shifts differently. Common symptoms include:

Anger or irritability
Withdrawal from family or social activities
Trouble sleeping or fatigue (even when baby is sleeping)
Lack of motivation or joy in everyday life
Anxiety about providing or parenting “the right way”
Substance use or numbing behaviors to cope

These signs are often missed or dismissed as “normal new dad stress,” but they can point to something deeper.

Why Does It Happen?

There’s no single cause, but a mix of biological, emotional, and social shifts contribute:

Hormonal changes: Yep, dads experience hormonal shifts too! Testosterone dips, cortisol rises, and sleep deprivation makes everything worse.
Pressure to provide: New financial responsibilities and the shift in family dynamics can feel overwhelming.
Lack of emotional outlets: Society still teaches men to "suck it up"—but bottling up stress or sadness only makes things harder.
Feeling like an outsider: Especially in the early months, dads may feel disconnected from baby or mom.

Why Supporting Dads Benefits the Whole Family

When dads are emotionally healthy, it creates a ripple effect:

Better bonding with baby
Stronger relationships with their partner
More stable, emotionally healthy home environment

Studies show that paternal depression can impact child development and even increase the risk of maternal depression (source).

Supporting both parents is essential—this is a team sport!

How to Offer Support (Or Ask for It)

Whether you're a new dad or supporting one, here’s how to move toward healing:

Start the conversation: It’s okay to say, “I’m not okay,” or “Something feels off.” Vulnerability is brave.
Talk to a therapist: Many now specialize in paternal mental health and family systems.
Join a dad group: Virtual or in-person dad communities provide community and validation.
Prioritize wellness: Movement, rest, mindfulness, and proper nutrition aren’t just for mom.
Partner check-ins: Make time to ask your partner often, “How are you, really?”

Final Thoughts: Let’s Normalize This

Dads are not immune to emotional strain. And the sooner we normalize, recognize, and support paternal mental health, the stronger our families become.

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